For parents going in for the first time

12 Questions That Change Your First IEP Meeting


What to ask. What to write down. And the one sentence that puts a no in writing.

You will be sitting across from six people who do this every week. You are walking in for the first time.

The questions you ask are what ends up in writing.

Ask for the draft IEP in writing, at least a week before the meeting.

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This printable helps you stay focused and prepared — even when the room feels overwhelming.

This is for you if

  • Your child was recently evaluated
  • Your first IEP meeting is scheduled
  • No one has told you what you can ask for

Three of the twelve

The other nine are in the PDF, laid out the same way — with room to write the answer next to the question, while you are still in the room.

3

How exactly will this goal be measured, and what does mastery look like?

“Will improve behavior” cannot be measured. “Will follow a two-step direction in 4 of 5 opportunities” can.

6

Is this delivered one-to-one or in a group — and how many children are in the group?

Thirty minutes shared among five children is not thirty minutes.

9

How will every teacher who works with my child find out about these accommodations?

An accommodation nobody was told about is not an accommodation.


One sentence does most of the work

“Will you put that in prior written notice?”

Use this when the team declines something you asked for.

Prior written notice is a standard part of the IEP process when a team declines something a parent proposed. Asking for it turns a verbal no into a documented one, and a documented no is something you can respond to later. How it works varies by state and district — your state’s Parent Center can confirm the specifics.

It is question twelve, and the reason the other eleven are worth writing down.

How it is meant to be used

It is a working document

Not something to read and file. You print it, tick what you ask, and write the answer in the space next to it.

One meeting, completely

Not a binder for the whole year. What to do before, what to ask during, and what happens after — for the first meeting.

Nothing about your child is in it

It makes no assumptions about your child and prescribes nothing. You are the person in the room who knows.


What this is not

It is an organizational tool, not legal advice. It does not tell you what to ask for.

IEP procedures vary by state and by district. For questions about your child’s rights, every state has a Parent Training and Information Center, and their help is free — find your state’s center.

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